Comments on: that ol’ work/daycare thing again

By: Shari

Shari — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 01:23:14 +0000

First you need to find a day care provider she likes and who likes her. Only then will her true personality and skills shine. Someone without medical training should not be telling you what is wrong with your daughter. Some people deal better with quirky children than others. I think we spend too much time trying to make everyone the same rather than celebrating the quirks.

By: TracyKM

TracyKM — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 02:42:59 +0000

I’ve just wondered in here from somewhere else, so I don’t know the whole story. But it seems like you think there’s something wrong with SPD? I would have been ecstatic if 6 years ago someone–anyone–knew what SPD was and suggested it as a cause for my child’s “quirky” behaviour. It was finally a speech-language pathologist who recognized the systems (I already knew about it but my family doctor wasn’t interested in hearing about it) and got us connected with OT and other services.
I understand if this is just one more thing with that daycare provider, but the way you phrased it seemed a little intolerant/insulting to those of us who deal with SPD daily (and I’m also thankful for my son as I’ve come to realize that my ‘issues’ also stem from SPD).

By: Andrea's Sweet Life

Andrea's Sweet Life — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 21:30:19 +0000

I think Catie’s comfort in her environment is the #1 priority. Whether or not she does have SPD (my Blythe is a very quirky kid who happens to have SPD) she needs to be comfortable when she’s away from you, or neither of you are going to be happy.

I hope you find just the right place, and that things settle down for you soon!

Happy Birthday to Catie!

By: Lizard Breath

Lizard Breath — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 03:24:11 +0000

I can see where a more structured school like environment with more children her age would be great for Catie. My own Miss C loves school and demands to go to “work” at “school” in the morning so she can be with her friends so in all, I love the situation and think you will too! Good luck!

By: Melissa

Melissa — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 01:59:55 +0000

It’s such a challenge to pick just the right daycare isn’t it?! I think having a good vibe about a place is key too. I had a bad home daycare experience when my son was little and I should have listened to my instinct, which I instead played off as first-time mom anxiety!

Good luck in your new job!

By: Al_Pal

Al_Pal — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 22:52:19 +0000

Wow, almost three! Glad work is great and a new daycare on the horizon. ;)

By: Scatteredmom

Scatteredmom — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 21:17:05 +0000

Hey I just wanted to let you know that from what I’ve read, Sensory Processing Disorder isn’t on the Autism spectrum. It is common in kids with autism, but kids who have ADHD, dyslexia, are gifted, etc can have sensory processing issues as well. (I’ve been a special ed para for 17 yrs).

My own son has dyspraxia (motor coordination disorder), anxiety, is LD in math, and is gifted…HAS sensory processing difficulties.

I don’t blame you for going all Mamma Bear on your daycare provider. Too many unqualified people make snap diagnoses based on what little knowledge they have, and they are often wrong. I’ve been there many times myself as people have tried to peg my son with ADHD and autism. Jake’s grade 2 teacher even asked if we’d ever thought of Ritalin.

Jake’s behavior at school was also very different then at home-mostly because he would get overstimulated by the HUGE amounts of sensory input. Same with places like the pool, playground, movie theater, etc. He would get hyper/happy and then tantrum whenever it was time to leave (tantrums-1 1/2-2 HOURS long) Anxiety tends to heighten the sensitivity to sensory input as well (at least that’s my experience with Jake).

You should also know that there are varying degrees of sensory sensitivities-my Hubs, who is dyslexic, has them too. Some days he’s okay but sometimes when he’s stressed he’s more sensitive to things. He can’t stand certain types of food, no spicy/strong foods, sock seams, heavily scented products, etc. Jake would be fine some days but if he was coming down with something, hungry, tired, etc he’d be more sensitive to crowds, noise, and bright lights.

It took a lot of looking for me to find a good fit for daycare for Jake too-but the bottom line is you need to go with your gut instinct and what is best for your daughter. :) And you’ve obviously got that down.

If you ever need to talk feel free to look me up! I’d be happy to chat :)