Comments on: BFF-less http://www.poobou.com/2009/10/22/bff-less/ Suddenly single mom of two little girls. Trying to navigate our way through life and always find the funny. Fri, 03 Feb 2012 16:01:33 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Brandy http://www.poobou.com/2009/10/22/bff-less/comment-page-1/#comment-584931 Brandy Fri, 30 Oct 2009 16:49:51 +0000 http://www.poobou.com/?p=1655#comment-584931 Hi Cindy! Just found your blog - can I just say that I know exactly how you feel on the best friend front! I had the same thing happen with me last year with my best friend that I have had for almost 30 years. We fell out and I have just had an AWFUL time shaking it off. I feel like Oprah without her Gayle (or her money LOL!)!! It just isn't right and it sucks! So, your words really resonated with me. Thanks! Hi Cindy! Just found your blog – can I just say that I know exactly how you feel on the best friend front! I had the same thing happen with me last year with my best friend that I have had for almost 30 years. We fell out and I have just had an AWFUL time shaking it off. I feel like Oprah without her Gayle (or her money LOL!)!!

It just isn’t right and it sucks! So, your words really resonated with me. Thanks!

]]> By: Yankee Librarian http://www.poobou.com/2009/10/22/bff-less/comment-page-1/#comment-584124 Yankee Librarian Tue, 27 Oct 2009 20:13:36 +0000 http://www.poobou.com/?p=1655#comment-584124 My BFF and I have been through several of these moments at different points in our lives. The one that almost did us in was a few years ago when my dad died. I'm the single one, she is the one with the family. She tried to come to the funeral, but couldn't. Initially, I told her she didn't have to, but once I realized how hard it was going to be, I wanted her to be there. She couldn't, and I understood. It was the time after when I needed her and she wasn't there. I was hurt. I sent her message telling her how hurt I was. I wasn't sure our relationship could recover, but it did. Instead of expecting or wanting her to reach out, I called her. And we spent two hours catching up, crying, making up for lost time, etc. We're each at different point in our lives, but deep down, she will always be my BFF. My BFF and I have been through several of these moments at different points in our lives. The one that almost did us in was a few years ago when my dad died. I’m the single one, she is the one with the family. She tried to come to the funeral, but couldn’t. Initially, I told her she didn’t have to, but once I realized how hard it was going to be, I wanted her to be there. She couldn’t, and I understood.

It was the time after when I needed her and she wasn’t there. I was hurt. I sent her message telling her how hurt I was. I wasn’t sure our relationship could recover, but it did. Instead of expecting or wanting her to reach out, I called her. And we spent two hours catching up, crying, making up for lost time, etc.

We’re each at different point in our lives, but deep down, she will always be my BFF.

]]> By: Dawn http://www.poobou.com/2009/10/22/bff-less/comment-page-1/#comment-583856 Dawn Mon, 26 Oct 2009 13:59:48 +0000 http://www.poobou.com/?p=1655#comment-583856 My bestest best friend and I didn't talk for 3 years once. And then one day, we saw each other at our 5-year college reunion, and we talked. Then we went out for coffee a few weeks later, and after that night we were the same as always. Just as close as ever and have been since. There is always hope. Especially if you can be honest with one another about your feelings. I have also recently lost another old friend, that I have known since my sophomore year of college. And in that situation, I think our parting is best for us both. She has never understood my decision to put my kids and husband first in my life. She did a similar thing when my son was 3 months old, asking me to come visit her in another state without kids for a girls' weekend. And told me I was selfish when I said no. We broke up 2 weeks ago because I finally had to call her out for her hypocrisy on an issue and she blew up at me and said she was never speaking to me again. I was a little hurt, but at the same time she's always rubbing it in to me about how awesome her single life as a high-powered attorney is and how great her fiance is and blah, blah, blah! So, I think it's for the best here. I am sorry you're hurting, but would urge you to try talking to your friend and see where you end up! Good luck! My bestest best friend and I didn’t talk for 3 years once. And then one day, we saw each other at our 5-year college reunion, and we talked. Then we went out for coffee a few weeks later, and after that night we were the same as always. Just as close as ever and have been since. There is always hope. Especially if you can be honest with one another about your feelings.

I have also recently lost another old friend, that I have known since my sophomore year of college. And in that situation, I think our parting is best for us both.

She has never understood my decision to put my kids and husband first in my life. She did a similar thing when my son was 3 months old, asking me to come visit her in another state without kids for a girls’ weekend. And told me I was selfish when I said no.

We broke up 2 weeks ago because I finally had to call her out for her hypocrisy on an issue and she blew up at me and said she was never speaking to me again. I was a little hurt, but at the same time she’s always rubbing it in to me about how awesome her single life as a high-powered attorney is and how great her fiance is and blah, blah, blah!

So, I think it’s for the best here.

I am sorry you’re hurting, but would urge you to try talking to your friend and see where you end up!

Good luck!

]]> By: Shari http://www.poobou.com/2009/10/22/bff-less/comment-page-1/#comment-583829 Shari Mon, 26 Oct 2009 02:37:01 +0000 http://www.poobou.com/?p=1655#comment-583829 Sometimes you just grow in different directions. She might not be a BFF, but you have fond memories of those days. Someday you might reconnect -- or not. In either case, you are in a great place with a lot of people who care about you. All you can do is hope she's in the same place and wish her well. Sometimes you just grow in different directions. She might not be a BFF, but you have fond memories of those days. Someday you might reconnect — or not. In either case, you are in a great place with a lot of people who care about you. All you can do is hope she’s in the same place and wish her well.

]]> By: Angie http://www.poobou.com/2009/10/22/bff-less/comment-page-1/#comment-583812 Angie Sun, 25 Oct 2009 17:14:18 +0000 http://www.poobou.com/?p=1655#comment-583812 ((hugs)) ((hugs))

]]> By: PrincessJenn http://www.poobou.com/2009/10/22/bff-less/comment-page-1/#comment-583583 PrincessJenn Fri, 23 Oct 2009 13:48:16 +0000 http://www.poobou.com/?p=1655#comment-583583 Oh, hugs!! There seems to be a lot of people going through this lately. I know it's so hard when you're life changes and you've grown apart from someone who means so much to you. But perhaps it's opening your life to a BFF who is more like the person you are now, rather than the person you were 13 years ago. (hugs) Oh, hugs!! There seems to be a lot of people going through this lately. I know it’s so hard when you’re life changes and you’ve grown apart from someone who means so much to you. But perhaps it’s opening your life to a BFF who is more like the person you are now, rather than the person you were 13 years ago.
(hugs)

]]> By: Christa http://www.poobou.com/2009/10/22/bff-less/comment-page-1/#comment-583582 Christa Fri, 23 Oct 2009 13:20:19 +0000 http://www.poobou.com/?p=1655#comment-583582 I'm often reading your blog Cindy, and today I'm sitting here and reading and crying. There is so much support and understanding in all the answers. I guess everybody went through times like you do right now. Tomorrow I have a talk with my best friend and as it looks like, after that we are not friends any longer. So I know exactely where you are right now. (Excuse my terrible English ;-)) I’m often reading your blog Cindy, and today I’m sitting here and reading and crying. There is so much support and understanding in all the answers. I guess everybody went through times like you do right now. Tomorrow I have a talk with my best friend and as it looks like, after that we are not friends any longer. So I know exactely where you are right now.

(Excuse my terrible English ;-))

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