lessons learned the hard way

So, the past several days have been sort of a whirlwind of emotions for us, dealing with the whole Brittany situation. (I can’t link to her blog anymore, since it no longer exists.) I’m betting that the majority of you who read this blog already know the situation, so I won’t get into it. If you don’t know it, you can email me (see my little “Contact” page above), but chances are, if you haven’t heard the story by now, it’s probably none of your business.

Suffice to say, the whole thing has left Dave and I feeling very hurt and angry. We feel manipulated. We feel used. And we also feel very sad for a young woman who is severely messed up and needs a profound amount of help.

I wrote last week that I won’t let one bad situation keep me from feeling compassion for others. I absolutely stand by that. If a person seems to be in genuine need, I will try to help them out whenever possible.

But, I have learned one valuable lesson through all of this. And this is a big lesson. I feel like I should cross-stitch it onto a pillow or something, it’s that important. And the lesson is this:

Don’t invite people from Twitter to your house.

Seriously. Just don’t. No good will come of it.

You’re welcome.

P.S. Yeah, I’m trying to find the humor in the situation. It’s difficult. I’ll try to be funnier next time.

14 thoughts on “lessons learned the hard way

  1. Aw. I’ve seriously made some wonderful friends from blogging/twitter. Although, we’ve generally met several times elsewhere before I’ve invited them to my house!

    I’m so sorry you got burned in this whole messed up situation. But I’m glad, too, that it hasn’t soured you on helping people forever.

  2. I’m so sorry you got one of the bad apples of the internet. I truly hope you know there are lot’s of genuine people out there that are supporting you and have your back. *hugs*

  3. So I’m not invited for dinner?? (Sad face).

    I don’t think I know the whole situation, but I felt misled, just having talked to her on twitter and donated when you and @onlyaman reached out to her. I can’t imagine the betrayal you feel.

    And also? I’m supercool. And not a liar or a creepster. Just FYI. 🙂

  4. Whoa, just whoa. Wish there were more words but can’t seem to find them. Did get a refund, guess that should say something but not sure what??

  5. I still hate that so many people were deceived in this situation. I was worried that you would be jaded by this, having invited her into your home and everything. But you’re just a kind person who was genuinely concerned for someone. I’m glad this won’t keep you from helping people in the future.

    P.S. Make those pillows and sell them on Etsy. I know quite a few people who would buy them.

  6. Aww. This makes me sad, both because it seemed like you were pretty good friends for awhile, and because of your “take away lesson” here.

    I don’t know what happened, other than seeing a couple of tweets…
    But I hope things get better for everyone involved, and I also hope that there can maybe be a reconciliation someday. Or post-therapy apology. Something.

    I’ve met up with many online friends, and with some, the connection is better than online, and with some, it is not as good.
    Sorry this ended with you & your husband feeling used. 🙁

  7. I’m not sure what happened exactly because I was off line for a few days. However, I’m really sorry you were taken advantage of. It’s so sad when you try to help someone who appears to so desperately need the help only to have them betray you. I’m so sorry this has happened to you. After reading your posts and seeing your tweets, I have no doubt that you are a kind, honest and caring person and unfortunately there are people in this world who take full advantage of that.

  8. You know where I stand with this whole situation and how I feel about you. XOXO

    There are always bad apples in the bunch. You just always hope that you will never have to encounter them. She took advantage of a lot of good hearted people, people that genuinely cared and wanted to help and keep her safe. Karma’s a bitch and it will definitely bite her back.

    Don’t let this one apple ruin the pie. Be yourself, continue to care and be greatful that the TRUTH was revealed sooner rather than later. You know, like before she moved a few minutes away from you. 🙂

    Since I’ve met you I’m still invited over, right? LOL

  9. getting burned sucks. I’m sorry it happenend to you. I’m glad you continue to move past it though and not one person discourage you. It’s hard not too, I imagine especially after you open your home & family to someone

  10. Wow. I don’t know what happened, but suffice it to say, this clearly sucks and I’m so sorry you got burned.

    A few weeks ago, I tried to make my donation online and there was some sort of web glitch where it wouldn’t process. I had to restart my computer, and figured, oh well, I’ll try again later. I forgot about it until reading your post just now…sometimes, the universe works in mysterious ways.

  11. =( We did all we can do. Now the ball is in her family’s court. Recovering from deception is naturally difficult, but I truly believe that time heals all wounds. Don’t feel foolish for trusting either; you didn’t know she was as sick as she is. I hope you and Dave begin to feel some solace soon.

  12. I’m still in the dark about the situation. Other than she was there and then she wasn’t. Which sucks. Because I believed her too. But like you say, it won’t keep me from reaching out again. Hugs to you and Dave.

  13. I am so sorry this happened to you Cindy, I really am.

    I think it’s sad to think that the people we all talk with each and every day, might not be who we thought.

    However, I met some of the most amazing people at BlogHer (you being one of them) and I trust each of them. But there were people I met, who I wouldn’t trust with anything.

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